My name is Rakesh and I am abroad pursuing my MBA and my age is 25 yrs. Will finish in July 2009. Sir, I am having a very big problem in my life and whenever I think about this problem I get upset and depressed. Actually I have two girls in my life. I have a relationship with one girl since 2003 and her name is Riya and other relationship I am having is since 2007 and her name is Nayan and I have told everything about Nayan to my parents and even she talk to my parents as well over the phone once in 1-2 month and we are soon going to marry.

My parents dont know about my first affair and I want to do breakup with that girl. She loves me like mad but I am the culprit who broke her trust. But sir I want to see her happy always and I just want to tell her that I really dont love her anymore and I cant marry her. Could you please help me in this big problem of my life. I will be very greatfull to you.

The problem is lack of courage to tell Riya that Rakesh needs to move on. Rakesh needs to tell Riya that he does not love her anymore, and wants to break up. . He need not bring Nayan in the picture at all, as the reason for breaking up.

He should be empathetic give her time and space to understand that it is over with Rakesh .
During this period Rakesh should be understanding about her anger , hurt and feelings of betrayal, But he should be firm and not slip into softness becuse he feels guilty. Other wise there will be complications at the Nayan front..

Hello sir, I'm a continuous reader of your ppt's and they were really very motivational. I need some advice regarding my goals. From past few days I'm trying to set my goal but don't know how to set it. I found that I have no qualities by using which I achieve any high position. Even I don't have interest in any field. I also don't know which work I like to do most.

Sir, I'm currently dong BBA and need help. I hope you will help me regarding this context.

Ankur first of all you are suffering from low self esteem. Rs 500 note no matter how much it has been but stamped over, crushed still commands its value. Similarly every individual has some strengths and weaknesses which is inherent in nature.The key is to find your strengths and weakness and based on that create your goal.

STRENGTHS are

Something which you want to do.
Some thing which gives satisfaction.
Something you learn very fast - Natural learning.
Something that gives a feeling of Excellence / Achievement
Something you consistently want to know more and excel or improve in it .

How To Find Your Strengths:

Find what you enjoy doing.
Believe you did well.
Feel satisfaction.
Take pride

for detailed information

for self esteem read this lesson

http://kamyabology.com/eng_session1/chapter23/1.asp

for summary of self esteem lesson read

http://kamyabology.com/lesspnSummary/23.asp

For discovering our strengths and weakness read this lesson

http://kamyabology.com/eng_session1/chapter22/2.asp

for summary of strength and weakness lesson read

http://kamyabology.com/lesspnSummary/22.asp

Also read this ppt for goal setting

http://kamyabology.com/goal/B

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